Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Graceful, Gracious Women of God

There's something lacking in the young women in our society today. I know the usual lack people point out is modesty, but that's only part of the problem. Even modestly dressed women don't know how to carry themselves. We slouch. We're loud. We're obnoxious. Or we can't think of what on earth to say, so we giggle. A lot.

I love the part in Proverbs 31 that says "strength and dignity are her clothing." I admire those qualities. Strength. Strength given to us by a confidence in the Lord, to weather all of the storms of life. And dignity. Webster's 1828 dictionary describes it as "true honor, a nobleness or elevation of the mind." Contrast that with Proverbs 11:22:
"Like a gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman without discretion."
Women who fear the Lord are to have a certain attitude and air about them that distinguishes them from the world. I always think of it as a quiet contentment, a peaceful assurance. When my mother walks into a room, for instance, you don't hear her voice before you see her. What makes her presence known is her gracious attitude, her careful speech -her gracefulness.

So, how do we become graceful, gracious women of God? I'll let you know when I get there. But as we journey together, I can definitely say that the first step is letting go of the pride that produces self-consciousness. Second, focus your attentions on others, and how to bless and serve them, not to boost your reputation. Third, be mindful of your surroundings, and make sure your actions are appropriate (what's all right on the front lawn isn't okay in the ballroom). Fourth, ask the most gracious woman you know to help you; in my case, it's my mom. Fifth, take correction graciously, and modify your behavior accordingly (if that gracious woman tells you it's rude to smack your gum, don't get up in arms -just spit the gum out. And sixth, remember why it is you want to portray contented biblical femininity -because you know it's precious to the Lord.

Read Jasmine's wonderful post in it's entirety here.

Recommended Resources
How To Be A Lady
Strength & Dignity
Raising Maidens of Virtue
A Young Ladies Guide to the Harmonious Development of Christian Character
The Godly Femininity Set

A gracious woman retaineth honour: and strong men retain riches Proverbs 11:16

1 comment:

~The Daughters of Texas~ said...

Thank you for sharing...I really appreciate the concepts contained therein.