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They tell us we’re dying and our hope will die with us and other nasty things.
Young ladies, one of the aspects of being a daughter set apart is persecution. There are a few things that I wish for you to understand about this aspect of your life, not so you can circumvent it, but so that you can face it like a true daughter of Zion.
Not in any particular order:
- Persecution comes in a form that hits our areas of vulnerability.
- It's perfectly designed.
- It's a test of faith for our good.
- It carries with it many benefits you will treasure
- Facing it in a biblical fashion gives you a way of escape.
- Facing it in a non-biblical fashion can be devastating to you and your loved ones.
- You must be shored up before it comes so that you can handle it with godly maturity.
- You should, can, and will eventually thank God for it.
I am going to attempt to walk you through persecution, in this post. My hope is that you'll gain wisdom for how to shore up your defenses because; no daughter, blogger or non-blogger, is exempt from facing the fiery darts of Satan. Satan understands our vulnerabilities even if we don’t and that can make for a difficult time for a daughter.
God seeks to strengthen us, we must not shrink from it.
I see many daughters that shrink in fear when fiery darts are thrown in an attempt to unravel their faith. I have much compassion for them. Fiery darts come in many forms not just in reviling words like we’ll examine today. Nonetheless, fiery darts hit us where it hurts and test our faith. Daughters need to recognize these tests when they come. Hopefully the process we’ll go through in this post will also help reveal other fiery darts being thrown your way.
Let’s begin with a note from one of our unsaved blog readers who has made an effort to hurt and wound us without provocation:
"Hey, when are you two broads going to fulfill your destiny and get married instead of living off your parents? If you've been out of the workforce for over 10 years, you have to be at least 28 years old. Your expiration date is sneaking up to you and your ovaries will start to shut down soon. Better give up the ghost and [forsake chastity and virtue]! Looks like you two are failures at becoming "helpmeets". The older you get, the less men eligible to marry (unless of course you wait for widowers to come along)."
What do we do when we face something like this?
It’s easy to be taken back by such words, but daughters need to understand that their emotions are often their worst enemies causing them to react rather than living according to scripture.
He Gave you grace, Give Grace
It is wise to remember that Christ was offended and reviled for our sake. Call to mind your previous wretched state and the long suffering and compassion the Lord and others showed you that ushered in your salvation. Thank the Lord for His perfect work. Thank the Lord for the grace He gives you to live the life you are now privileged to live and pray for the grace and wisdom to know how to deal with this opportunity set before you. Be inspired by your Lord to take up your cross and submit to the offense given. His compassion toward us reminds us how we can live with Him since we have died with him. Pray to the Lord that He will bring Glory to Himself in dealing with the reviler and have the same compassion on your revilers that He had on you. I have found this prayer to be helpful:
“Lord, will you bless _________ with wisdom, love, and discretion? Would you keep ________ from judging and reviling? Would you lift up Your countenance upon _______ and give _________ peace with You, himself, and others?”
These are all important “first things” to do because doing this will give you the freedom from an emotional reaction and genuine love for the reviler.
Remember to draw from the scripture you’ve stored up in your heart or go to scripture seeking God’s wisdom and instruction for what your behavior should be toward reviling, scoffing, and/or foolishness like this as well as to seek to discover any truth there might be in the reviling words. Sort it out.
Here is an example:
Proverbs 9: 7-9
He that reproveth a scorner getteth to himself shame: and he that rebuketh a wicked [man getteth] himself a blot. Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee: rebuke a wise man, and he will love thee. Give [instruction] to a wise [man], and he will be yet wiser: teach a just [man], and he will increase in learning.
Matthew Henry Comments:
2. What different sorts of persons they would meet with, and what course they must take with them, and what success they might expect.
They would meet with some scorners and wicked men who would mock the messengers of the Lord, and misuse them, would laugh those to scorn that invite them to the feast of the Lord, as they did, 2 Chr. 30:10, would treat them spitefully, Mt. 22:6. And, though they are not forbidden to invite those simple ones to Wisdom’s house, yet they are advised not to pursue the invitation by reproving and rebuking them. Reprove not a scorner; cast not these pearls before swine, Mt. 7:6. Thus Christ said of the Pharisees, Let them alone, Mt. 15:14. "Do not reprove them.’’ [1.] "In justice to them, for those have forfeited the favour of further means who scorn the means they have had. Those that are thus filthy, let them be filthy still; those that are joined to idols, let them alone; lo, we turn to the Gentiles.’’ [2.] "In prudence to yourselves; because, if you reprove them,’’ First, "You lose your labour, and so get to yourselves shame for the disappointment.’’ Secondly, "You exasperate them; do it ever so wisely and tenderly, if you do it faithfully, they will hate you, they will load you with reproaches, and say all the ill they can of you, and so you will get a blot; therefore you had better not meddle with them, for your reproofs will be likely to do more hurt than good.’’
Is there truth in it?
Yes there is. There are lies as well. Let’s sort it out shall we.
As Daughters of Zion we are not called to be “broads that fulfill our own destiny” but are called to live under the care and headship of our father until given in marriage so we really haven’t anything to do with that one but toss it out. Let’s look closer though. It’s implied that we’re mooching. Daughters should understand that their position and role calls them to add to the industry of a home but they should not harbor false guilt over being provided for. Moving on.
“You’re old and the window of opportunity is closing.” Yep that’s true. We’re called to be diligent toward marrying young; to be fruitful and multiply. Our family was lost for many years until one day when the Lord saw fit to use the Moore family to lead us to Christ, teach us about the roles of men and women, homeschooling, and much more all in one fell swoop. Since then we’ve sought the wisdom of the Lord, for direction for our lives, we've still made some mistakes but continue according to our faith with the hopes that He will help us redeem the time.
“Give up the ghost and forsake our ways.” That seems to imply that Christianity is a failure. Living according to the law of God is never a failure because it’s a witness to the gospel of Jesus Christ.
“Looks like you two are failures at becoming helpmeets” We’re not dead yet. Projecting failure isn’t something we’re called to think upon as dominion minded individuals. If we are going to be a success in anything, a projected goal of failure isn’t a perspective that produces success. Success will come by many means that the Lord chooses. He shows us examples everyday of how He providentially brings about success. Just recently we witnessed God reward the faith of those in reformed community that held to a biblical vision of marriage. It looks to us that God isn’t dead and cares for his own. He’s given us examples to follow that are alternative to the ways of the world. He’s given us inspiration to invent other ways of making marriages happen.
“They older you get the harder it is to marry” Why would it be harder? Fewer men is what is implied. This is not the Walmart parking lot, the good ones are not all taken. The older you get the easier it is to see the cream of the crop. Also, the older you get the wiser you are and the more careful you are with your relationships making for a more successful courtship and marriage. I am not advocating later marriages. A maturity level that speaks of preparedness for marriage should be reached when daughters are young and marriages made sooner. But we are talking about the here and now so I’m just saying.
Did you notice which things they poked at?
It makes sense that persecution is perfectly designed to poke us where we are vulnerable when we understand that every daughter faces the same fears and similar trials, generally speaking, in the course of their maturing.
Every daughter wants to know, who will love her, who will take care of her, who she’ll marry, when she’ll marry, who will protect her. These are good questions that need good answers. They are the most important questions a daughter has and so they are also emotionally charged at times. The devil knows this even if we don’t about ourselves and fashions persecutions that fit us. But God wants us to put our hope in Him on these matters. Because daughters are most vulnerable in regard to these questions, they need the best defenses in these areas and that comes from know in what God has to say about the matter and turning the persecution into a victory in your work for the Lord.
Our Rewards for Being Reviled
Caused me to humble myself
Called to mind I am privileged to be living by grace.
Caused me to thank the Lord again.
Gave me a clearer view of the dominion work that needs to be done
Invigorated my desire love to evangelize the lost.
Encouraged me to seek wisdom about persecution.
Made me wiser to the tactics of the devil.
And the list goes on.
I thank the Lord for taking me through times of reviling because it has taught me longsuffering and He has then used it for His glory and to usher in the salvation of a friend. I was privileged to witness the Great Husband at work first hand. It renewed the joy of my conversion.