Young ladies at times find that no matter what they pursue the delightful things of life bring no contentedness. They surround themselves with godly activities, reach out to the lost, spend time in their devotions, serve their parents and those in the covenant community and yet, with all of this they live a life of quiet desperation.
This can be for many reasons. One particular reason is she intends that all these activities she is pursuing are to fill a void her father neglects to fill. Fathers being called to meet the spiritual, intellectual, financial and physical (i.e. protection from foul fiends and hugs and kisses when necessary) needs of their daughters often find themselves overwhelmed with so many needs to meet. There is no denying we do have needs, otherwise God would not have called our fathers to meet them.
I challenge daughters to look in a couple places for a remedy. First, look to see if you have left off your relationship with your Saviour. The neglectful parent might perhaps be the God's catalyst to spur a daughter to her duty towards God.
Whether that is the case or not, next it is time to find overlooked needs a father may have. Daughters often get caught up in "receiving" mode. Thinking that it is the sole purpose of man to provide for the needs of the women in his life. This is one directional "me" thinking and certainly not reality. Very often our men, be they fathers or brothers, suffer wounds when they are on the battle field for us. We should seek to salve their wounds with our hospitality towards them, our affections towards them, sharing appropriate scripture after having listened to them encouraging them in gentle feminine ways.
We are called to minister to the men that go to war for us. Open your bibles and look for what God calls you to do when your father suffers, when he hasn't the answers he needs, when in desperation he even possibly looks to the world for comfort. It will be an excellent study in how to be a help meet.
Something that daughters of lost men ought to consider is that they may be an expression of God's mercy toward their fathers. God has called us to be faithful no matter what the situation is He's placed us in. It is easy to focus on our unmet needs and the delinquency of a fathers, however in spite of all that, God owes us nothing and we are slaves to Christ. Daughter's should consider it a high-calling to serve and honor their God given authorities be they saved or lost.
Godly daughter should be characterised be praying for their fathers daily. A daughter ought to know his needs and the things that he will be facing. She should lift him up in prayer and be his greatest cheer leader. This is a great place to start. Any daughter can do it. Also as each father is different, daughter's should continue her studies, seeking to determine God's wisdom for her situation.
Matthew Henry's Concise Commentary on Colossians 3:18-25 shows the attitude with which we should serve.
The epistles most taken up in displaying the glory of the Divine grace, and magnifying the Lord Jesus, are the most particular in pressing the duties of the Christian life. We must never separate the privileges and duties of the gospel.
Submission is the duty of wives. But it is submission, not to a severe lord or stern tyrant, but to her own husband, who is engaged to affectionate duty. And husbands must love their wives with tender and faithful affection.
Dutiful children are the most likely to prosper. And parents must be tender, as well as children obedient.
Servants are to do their duty, and obey their masters' commands, in all things consistent with duty to God their heavenly Master. They must be both just and diligent; without selfish designs, or hypocrisy and disguise. Those who fear God, will be just and faithful when from under their master's eye, because they know they are under the eye of God. And do all with diligence, not idly and slothfully; cheerfully, not discontented at the providence of God which put them in that relation.
And for servants' encouragement, let them know, that in serving their masters according to the command of Christ, they serve Christ, and he will give them a glorious reward at last. But, on the other hand, he who doeth wrong, shall receive for the wrong which he hath done. God will punish the unjust, as well as reward the faithful servant; and the same if masters wrong their servants. For the righteous Judge of the earth will deal justly between master and servant. Both will stand upon a level at his tribunal.
How happy would true religion make the world, if it every where prevailed, influenced every state of things, and every relation of life! But the profession of those persons who are regardless of duties, and give just cause for complaint to those they are connected with, deceives themselves, as well as brings reproach on the gospel